[Contains PR sample]

"I can't wear that, it's too nice" or "Is this outfit too much for a trip to the shops" are two sayings I used to say a lot before the global pandemic.

When I was in college I rarely wore jeans. Maybe once a week.. sometimes. Yet my entire top shelf in my wardrobe was stacked high with jeans – more specifically River Island Molly Jeggings in a size 16. 

 


Welcome to issue two of MOLLIE'S CURVY STYLING TIPS! In today's post I'll be talking you through the struggles big bummed babes have, and how I've been overcoming them recently. From sizing up and wearing a belt, tucking tops in, wearing Miss Sexy trousers in high school.. I'll be sharing it ALL. I'll even be letting you in on a few secrets, including how to wear a cropped top confidently (yes, even with your belly button on show).

[Contains PR samples]

When autumn comes around each year, I automatically want to start afresh – there's just something about the changing leaves that make me want to change.. need to change.

Welcome to a brand new segment to theperksofmolliequirk.co.uk. This is a space dedicated to my curvy styling tips. So, let me introduce myself to any new readers...


[Contains gifted bikinis/pr products]


Despite summer 2020 being one of the weirdest summers in existence, it was the summer where I wore bikinis fearlessly and boldly. 



[Gifted products from LUSH]

Lush kindly gifted me their BRAND NEW Halloween collection for 2020. As you all know, I'm autumn mad – I love every single thing about autumn. The cold mornings and nights, the darker evenings, the pumpkin spice, the candles, and of course... HALLOWEEN!


[Contains gifted underwear]

When I post photos of myself in underwear, it's not for the sexual gratification of men. If that's what a woman wants to do and achieve, I have no issue with that – in fact, I cheer on my friends who start OnlyFans accounts. But for me, posting photos in my underwear or posting a sexy photo isn't for somebody else's benefit. Being sexy can be for your own benefit. There are so many benefits to feeling sexy – especially when it's not just for somebody else's gratification. 

[Gifted bikini from SHEIN]

Classy women are always perceived as thin. You'll rarely see a fat classy woman in a movie or described in a book. Classy fat women don't exist according to the media and society. But I'm willing to rewrite the rule book.

[Gifted bikini from SHEIN]

Summer 2020.. a summer that none of us will ever forget. I spent summer 2020 mostly in lockdown, which meant I spent the hottest days of the year in my apartment on the sixth floor. High rises in the heat aren't an awful lot of fun – but there were a few positives to spending my days in a bikini, one positive in particular....

[Gifted dress from Collectif]

Lockdown has taught us all lots. I don't know about you, but for me, lockdown has been a learning curve. I have learnt so much about myself. I feel like I've grown up a lot in the space of five months. 

In the past five months I've really changed. I've changed the way I look at my body, the way I treat myself, the way I treat others, and the way I see my future. From learning to love myself more, to connecting deeper with friends – lockdown has really shown me what matters most.

Lockdown gave me an opportunity to change, so I grabbed it with both hands and thanked the Universe.
I didn't change my diet, I didn't change my appearance – I simply embraced and utilised everything I already had.


Friendships

Lockdown has really enabled me to figure out who my real friends are. I've been in touch with old friends, new friends and friends I've known both online and in real life for YEARS! Some friendships have developed into really special friendships that I'll cherish forever, and some friendships kind of diminished a few weeks into lockdown. 

Although it's sad that those friendships diminished, I'm still grateful for them. They were beautiful when they were real, but I now just look them as a lesson, and I thank them for showing me that keeping the friendship was no longer the best option. And most of all, I thank them for allowing me to find friendships that are real, supportive and long-lasting.

My outlook on love

At the start of lockdown (and multiple times throughout) I may have downloaded a few dating apps. They were great fun and I had a great time getting to know a few guys. But I now realise that finding love through a dating app really isn't me and in-line with my morals. That being said though, If anything does happen to become of any of the connections I've made in the future, post-lockdown/post-coronavirus – then I'm more than willing to mark it down as fate.


My body

Lockdown could have been a really negative experience in terms of body image, but for me it's been the complete opposite. In the beginning I was thinking of getting an exercise bike just to keep fit as I usually walk around 10,000–15,000 steps per day. But then I just decided to move when my body wanted to move. I find joyful movement so.. well.. joyful! I love nothing more than putting on a uplifting playlist, wearing some big 'ole granny pants and crop top, and dancing round my room making up silly routines. It's fun, keeps my blood pumping and keeps my mental health on some kind of good level. 

Lockdown has really taught me to embrace my body, my curves and the way I look at myself. I've posted and spoken about body positivity for the past five or so years, but I'd say 2020 is the year I have started to make waves online and in my own mind. Over the lockdown period I really began to find my feet with loving myself – weeks on end with no makeup, crop tops and big knickers really did me good. 

I now look at my body as a vessel that carries me through life, keeping me healthy and nourished. I look at my body as a beautiful thing – I really have learned to LOVE my body and I'm in love with that fact!


Lockdown has really changed me for the better. I look at life completely differently these days. From my friendship to my body, to my love life and to everything in between. The things I'm grateful for have changed, the things I take for granted have changed – this pandemic has changed the world in unimaginable ways, and it has also changed me too. 


Steal Mollie's Style

Mollie is wearing a gorgeous (gifted) 1950's style dress from Collectif. It's their super popular Caterina style (which is my all-time favourite style of dress), in the Caterina Ribbon Check Swing Dress. I adore their Caterina Dresses so much – the signature stretch, cinched in waist, button down to waist – it's a vintage dream!!



Hello world.....

[Gifted tee from The Yay Makers & gifted bikini from SHEIN]

Wearing bright colours isn't easy for everyone – it hasn't always been easy for me, so I know all too well the fear that comes with being bold. 

[Gifted bikini from SHEIN]

Hi, I'm Mollie Munro Quirk. I'm 22-years-old and I am fat. Yes, you did just read that correctly. I am fat. And yes, I am calling myself fat. Why? Because that's what I am. I'm fat and I'm okay with it – I'm at peace with my fatness and you should be too.

[Gifted knickers from The Big Bloomers Company]

I wear big knickers and I give 0 f*cks to what you think. When I was younger, big knickers were not trendy AT ALL. High waisted knickers and bikini bottoms were like gold dust, and wearing big knickers to school meant getting changed for PE felt daunting to say the least. 

[Dress gifted from Collectif Clothing]

For years I've wanted to fall in love. You know the kind out of a movie or in a song or a book? The kind that makes your heart ache, your head spin and your foot pop? That's the kind of love I've always dreamed of.

Country music is my favourite genre. I'm big into deep feelings – heady feelings, the kind you feel when you fall in love (I can only presume). Country music gives me the illusion that I'm falling in love, actually in love or recovering from a heartbreak – country music allows me to feel emotions I've never felt before, and I think that's why I'm so fond of it. 

[Gifted bikini from Figleaves & tee from SHEIN Curve]

I have cellulite. I have dimply thighs and a dimply bum. I have fat rolls, back rolls, bingo wings and saggy boobs. I have a little belly that hangs a little bit. And guess what? NONE of the above means I can't wear a bikini. Because every BODY is a bikini body. Now, prove me wrong.

[Gifted underwear from Pour Moi]

Our bodies are ever-changing vessels – their changing is a constant throughout all of our lives. Our bodies get bigger and smaller; our bodies gain and lose; our bodies change colour; our bodies get taller and shorter – our bodies amazing and they don't get enough credit. 

[Contents of blog post gifted to me by LUSH]

LUSH have recently launched a brand new range of bubble bars! Bigger, better and more inventive than ever. With perfume bottle shaped treats, sweet smelling mermaid's tails and tie dyed clouds in pastel colours – there's something to tempt everyone!


For years I had seen people rave about The Ordinary on Instagram and various blogs. I had always wanted to give it a go, but I just wasn't sure. My skin is super sensitive to different products – usually my skin breaks out if I change it up too often. 

2020 was supposed to be my best year yet. January saw me move to London – something that I thought would really kickstart my new life. I had work placements due to start in the spring, I had so much to look forward to. I was excited to make new friends, explore new parts of this big, bright city, and hopefully find someone special. I was excited to start up my career, I was hoping for job offers, I wanted to get my work published in glossy magazines – there was so much to hope for, so much to dream for and so much to achieve. My mental health was improving, I was happier than ever and I was ready to live my best year at 22 in 2020. 

But then a global pandemic happened. My mental health deteriorated and the world came crashing down around us all. This virus is horrid, it's brutal, it's indiscriminate, it's heartbreaking and it's scary. And I don't think everyone is taking it seriously enough. 

As somebody who has suffered with poor mental health and severe health anxiety for around five/six years, a global health pandemic isn't really ideal. 

I've now been indoors for 68 days. Yes, sixty-eight days. No, I haven't been out for a walk or to the shops, and yes, I am getting exercise and fresh air. But I cannot pass this virus onto my mum as she is all I have got and has a couple of health issues that make her more vulnerable. I'm lucky as our new flat is pretty big and has a large balcony. I feel blessed to be able to stay at home with my mum, take care of her, protect the NHS and save lives. And if I'm honest, I don't know when I'll be going out next. 

I don't even know why I'm writing this post – I wasn't going to blog again for a while because 1) my mental health hasn't been all that, and 2) I thought it could come across as insensitive. But then I realised, everyone is in the same boat – we're all going through this once in a generation occurrence, we're all feeling the same feelings, we're all unable to change the things we want to but just can't, and we're all feeling uneasy and unsure. It's also good to document what's going on right now – my blog has been with me through so much, so many life events and so many different things, so why not a global pandemic too?

I was actually writing a series for my blog – 'FROM THE SUNSHINE COAST TO THE CAPITAL' – it was a series I was so excited for. It was going to document my new life in London and all of the amazing things I would experience. But that soon fizzled out to nothing. So here I am, documenting the past few weeks in lockdown...

The last time I went out was on March 4th.. crazy right? Lockdown has meant finding things to do in between feeling shitty. From knitting, to sorting out the balcony, doing bits of uni work, listening to music and working out – I've been busying myself as much as I can. I find sitting on the balcony really helps me – the fresh air, the sunlight in the mornings and the stars in the evenings. I also find that getting dressed up nice, doing my hair and makeup (and documenting that with a quick snap) is a real surefire way to make myself feel a bit better.

Some of my favourite moments from lockdown 2020 (so far) are...

- Painting the living room pink
- Renovating our balcony, planting seeds, watching them grow, buying plants and putting up lights
- Not washing my hair everyday.. every-other-day is probably sufficient
- Crafting with my mum
- Getting the most thoughtful gift sent to me from my lovely friend Emily
- Baking cupcakes and chocolate cookies
- Watching a Dolly Parton concert on the TV
- Talking to my nan on the phone about when we used to grow sunflowers when I was little
- Making new friends online
- Clapping every Thursday for our carers and key workers
- Painting rainbows on our windows
- Being with my cat more
- Putting cute outfits together (that I wish I could wear out)
- Discovering new country music artists like Runaway June
- Spending time on the balcony
- Captain Tom Moore raising £30 million and turning 100!
- The Queen addressing the nation
- Laughing uncontrollably with my mum
- Painting flags on pillow cases for VE Day
- Hosting a balcony tea party for my mum and cat for VE Day
- Dressing up nicely, putting on makeup and feeling like me every so often
- Having more time to knit and scrapbook (when I feel mentally able)
- Having more time to focus on me, my mental health, how I'm feeling and where I want to go in life
- Loving myself regardless of how my body looks during lockdown
- Louise Pentland following me on Instagram!?!?! I almost fell off my chair!!!
- Receiving a letter from my best friend in America and writing back to her
- My mum buying me Dahlias for the balcony

See... although this is a really shitty time, there's always something good to smile at... no matter how little or how silly it may seem!


I hope you enjoyed reading this ramble! I'm not sure what this post is for, I'm not sure what it's in aid of, and I'm not sure if anyone will even be interested in it. But it's here, it exists and it serves as a memory for me in the years to come if not anything else. 

Stay safe everyone, sending love to you all,