LONELINESS IN YOUR TWENTIES, AND WHY IT'S NOT A BAD THING

Sunday, 31 March 2019


[This post contains a gifted dress from Junarose]

I'm in my twenties, and I'm lonely. Lonely doesn't mean I'm crying in a corner every night, lonely doesn't mean I have no friends, lonely doesn't mean I'm isolated, and lonely doesn't mean I'm sad... here's what lonely means to me....

I guess I've always been lonely. I'm an only child, my family has always lived all over the place, I've never had a million friends, and I'm so different to most people my age.



For me, lonely isn't a bad thing. Lonely can be good, and lonely does have it's benefits. That being said, lonely can be, well... lonely. People you know are out with their friends, but you don't have many. People you know are out drinking, but you might not want to get drunk. And people you know might be at house parties, but that might not be your scene. It's a catch 22.. you want to have friends, but you feel estranged, like you have nothing in common, so you end up segregating yourself which in turn means you become lonely. 

Loneliness however has enabled me to find myself. I know what I like, and I know what I don't like. I know myself inside and out, purely because I've spent time alone, doing things lots of other people don't. I've discovered a faith that I adore, I've spent time singing and writing songs about my life, I've written over 350 blog articles, I've written for online publications, I've moved house countless times, and I've become who I am today... purely by nurturing myself into the person I always wanted to be. 


People just presume that lonely is a bad thing, but it really isn't. Some people might be more prone to feeling the negative effects of being lonely, but there's many positive aspects too. 

I'm not lonely in every sense of the word. I have my mum who is my best friend, I have many friends in real life, I have friends all over the world, I have lots of family, and I have a social life. But compared to average girls my age, I appear to be lonely.

If paving my career means I've spent my adolescence and twenties 'lonely' then I don't really care

I turned my lonely school years into a blog, and I turn my lonely evenings when everyone is out drinking into articles and opinion pieces. I'm perfectly okay with my life, in fact I love it, and I actually wouldn't change anything that's happened. And if anyone wants to think that lonely is a bad thing, I'd like to invite you to reevaluate your opinions – I don't judge others for their lifestyle choices, so I don't expect you to judge mine. 



Outfit details

Junarose kindly gifted me this gorgeous dress. It's the Dotted Mesh Dress in Navy Blue, and it's honestly a dream. Comfy, floaty, and extremely chic – I adore this dress as it fits me perfectly, accentuates my figure, and doesn't cling to my lumps and bumps!

I'm also sporting some ankle boots that I picked up in Primark last year, and my trusty Louis Vuitton Speedy 35 in the Monogram Leather Canvas.




Do you embrace loneliness? Let me know in the comments below!



9 comments

  1. I agree! Being lonley has advantages!
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
    www.dressedwithsoul.com

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    1. Definitely! Thank you so much for reading! xxx

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  2. I'm completely agree with this I'm not the girl that has all the friends I'm the person that would rather spend my time doing something valuable to me l. Thank you for writing this!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading my love!! I agree with you! xxx

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  3. being lonely has a lot of advantages and i totally agree with you! love your dress! o pretty!

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  5. Interesting post Mollie and I really relate to it. I've always been a bit of a loner too, but there are many advantages to that, as you say. I'm so glad that I'm comfortable in my own company and have a lot of interests! Love this dress, looks beautiful on you. x

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  6. Very nice post Mollie. I too don't talk to many people, may be I am a little reserve person. I love this look of you, you look so beautiful!
    Have a great day!
    Beautyandfashionfreaks

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  7. Very cool, dear!! Cute pics! Have a nice day!!

    ❤ Mary MarĂ­a Style ❤

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